“I’m not homophobic! I’m not scared of gay people!”
Of all things why does the literal definition of “homophobia” bother people?
Gender identity is a cause that’s very important to me.
People who do not identify as their biological gender (non-cis) struggle everyday between their own search for self and the social pressures they face from friends, peers, family, media, and perhaps even themselves.
We don’t live in a tolerant society yet, but we should work to achieve one.
But it’s not a crime to use the wrong pronoun for someone because you don’t know better. Even if you just forget, that’s okay.
It’s usually not a good thing to do so consciously, because then there’s probably some offensive ulterior motive.
But for many people, it’s just an honest mistake. Not everyone is informed about gender issues. Not everyone knows that some people prefer to be called “she” even if they appear to be a man, and even fewer know the plethora of third-gender pronouns. And nobody, not one person, is going to know before they are told what you identify as.
We cannot punish people for harmless details that they were raised to believe is standard. We need to educate. Nobody is a bad person just because they don’t know something, and the world is not going to change by yelling at people because they’re not psychic.
Before we can live in a world where people actively respect all gender identities, we need to make a world where people even understand them.
It’s not going to be easy. We’re still untying the ancient knot that separates the binary genders. It’ll take a long time to reach a society that is informed and tolerant of genderqueer persons, but we can do it one day through peace and patience.
We don’t have to shut up, we just have to be reasonable.
Also, and I’ve probably said this before
I really don’t like at all the way that people seem to just hate people who oppose homosexuality.
The thing is that though in our eyes what they believe in wrong and they’re bigoted, in their eyes the same goes for us.
Do I think that opposition to homosexuality is right? No. But people oppose it because it’s what they feel is the right thing to do, and I support it because I think that’s the right thing to do. For the most part, on both sides, people just want the best and to do what’s right. (Although some don’t, and many fail to be ethical in their activism)
I just think that everyone needs to take a step back and realize that the other side may be just as well-intended and is probably a human being just like you. People do exist whose beliefs oppose yours, and though their beliefs may be bad, they are not necessarily bad. There are good and bad points to all sides of most controversial issues, otherwise there would be no question on which is right.
Plus, we need to stop focusing on how horrible the other side is. Seriously, if them calling you things like immoral or disgusting isn’t going to dissuade you, it won’t dissuade them either.
Really, this goes with almost all issues.
Homosexuality, though, is the one that I see a lot of bashing with (ESPECIALLY on Tumblr) and really I’m sick of it.
TAG YOUR CHARACTER HATE
EVERYBODY WHO FOLLOWS THAT TAG OBVIOUSLY HATES THAT CHARACTER TOO
AND EVERYBODY CARES WHAT YOU THINK
YOU BEAUTIFUL SNOWFLAKE
When people tag they’re not always thinking of the people who search tags.
If it’s a post about that character they have every right to tag it. Tags not only function to index tumblr, but to index individual blogs. I have no obligation to people who find my posts by searching for something in the tags or the body.
Life is not all sunshine nor are tags. People have a right to put both character hate and love in a character’s tag. They’re not always looking to pick a fight. Sure, maybe some are. But so what? It’s not just about some kind of sense of entitlement. Not about being a special snowflake or looking to make some enemies or whatever. It’s someone expressing their opinion. A negative opinion matters just as much as a positive opinion. Just because someone’s opinion is negative doesn’t mean nobody cares, and just because someone’s opinion is positive doesn’t mean that anybody cares. That’s the entire point of having a blog. To post what you want to post, whether people care or not, and you can’t take that away from someone just because you found their post via search engine and don’t like it.
If it really bothers you to see something negative on a character or series’ tag, just scroll past it.
Besides, when people dislike the content of a blog, they’re told to unfollow, so logically, why don’t you just unfollow a tag if its content is not to your liking? It’s not that different at all if you take this point of view on things. If you want a positive blog about a character, follow a positive blog about the character. The tags are not meant to replace blogs and cater to your needs.
You can dislike what people post under a tag, but if it’s relevant to the tag I don’t see what the person is doing wrong.
I’m sorry but I don’t see why the fuck this kind of shit is such a big deal. People make a bigger deal of tag following than it really deserves. It’s a saved search feature. That’s all it is.