Friendly reminder that gender neutral folks can wear traditionally feminine clothes and still be gender neutral. (◡‿◡✿)
…Femininity is gender though. That’s not being subversive in the slightest.
HOLY SHIT HOW CNA SOMEONE BE SO WRONG
IM LAUGHIN GSO HARD AT WHAT YOU JUST TYPED LIKE
you thought that out… and then typed it out… and nowhere in that space of time did you realise “femininity is gender" is a fucking STUPID, ARSE BACKWARDS IDEA
And this is an example of how you don’t do it.
I can call someone’s stupidity out which ever way I want, it’s not my job to hold someone’s hand when they are being ignorant, it’s too tiring to do every time. I’m not wasting my time on a self proclaimed “rad-fem”
Didn’t reblog this post to contrast the “correct” ways to call someone out. You can call out someone whatever way you want. Doesn’t mean that being an asshole to people is the best course of action.
It’s not your job, but just because it’s too tedious to do it over and over again doesn’t exactly give you a free pass to just be an ass when you don’t feel like doing it. When people consciously realize that a person is speaking not out of hatred but simple ignorant mistakes, I don’t understand why people just tend to treat them like they’re backwards-ass dickheads.
I get what you’re tryna say, like I do, I used to think like that too. But, whether intentional or not, this person said a shitty thing that promotes bad ideas and if I was speaking with them face to face I would react the same; they are ignorant, I’m gonna laugh at it
I read the some other posts on their blog too, this isn’t a one off instance of shitty ‘opinions’ and even so, tone policing is a crap rebuttal. If you care more about how I react than how someone said something awful, you need to look at that and think
And, yeah, you kinda did reblog it to show contrast because the other version you reblogged was tagged with #this is how you do it people and your comment up there was left on my reblog
Well I didn’t look at their blog. So I guess you’re right with that and I should take the piss on that one.
I just have grown so sick of seeing this attitude against even legitimately innocent persons.
But I stand by the fact that the contrast was not meant to be “how to call someone out”. I intended “how to react”. I didn’t exactly say that in the original post explicitly since I didn’t actually expect to see this one or one like this. I just caught this one in the notes in the corner of my eye.
But ultimately, since I’ve made my general point and you’ve refuted its relevance to this instance, I guess there’s really nothing left to say.
Thanks for explaining yourself, too.
Just do people and yourself a favour and grow out of tone policing. Going up against oppression every day in the face of people who just don’t know better feels the same as the people that are purposefully shitty. Intent does not matter in a situation like this
(Source: uselesslouis, via )
go to 47:00 and just wait til they talk about despairkomaeda
is she wrong or was there a point when he thought he was komaeda because i remember one time before he changed URLs he was very explicit that he did not believe he was komaeda
Okay, guys, all drama aside, if you haven’t checked uvuu.tumblr.com recently then you are missing it.
- zeaky said: What did uvuu even /do/? I keep hearing about this person and also the fact that they apologized, but some even joked about how his apology was not valid by making fu n of it and comparing it to murder
Well it seems to be a longish 2-parter story and again I don’t have a complete picture.
ACT I Scene 1
A while ago, uvuu got into a little scuffle with tumblr user nentindo. Why they did, who started it, etc. I don’t know, so I can’t make any judgment on that situation. From what I heard, uvuu ended up sending gore to him.
ACT I Scene 2
Like, what must have been days or even a week later (following the despair drama) that little scuffle came back up again. I had seen uvuu making posts about nentindo every so often since their spat, but there didn’t seem to be much really going on from what I gleaned. (Not that I was following it very closely, as I’ve said before) But then this blog called “Outing Abusers" popped up. If you followed the Komaeda drama, then it’s pretty much like the Outingdespairkomaeda blog but for multiple people. If you’re not familiar with that either….it’s exactly what it sounds like.
(Note: The outingabusers blog is actually from July, which I believe is from before the Komaeda drama. If there’s any connection between the blogs, I don’t know.)
uvuu was submitted to outingabusers. (I believe it was nentindo who did it, because I do remember he did message the blog) uvuu claims that he and nentindo were being mutually abusive to one another and that he had apologized to nentindo. OA demanded proof. On his blog, uvuu claimed that he sent proof but was ignored. You can check the /uvuu tag on OA to see more of how that went down and how they documented it.
During this time, uvuu talked about his anger issues that caused him to fight with nentindo the way he had. Since there wasn’t very much drama that I observed with him in the past, I didn’t know anything about his anger issues until that point in time. He stated at the time that he was undergoing treatment which he seems to still be.
Now, ultimately I’m not sure if this is a part of the drama that’s going on now, but I personally think it’s factored a bit.
This part of the story I’m really fuzzy on. I haven’t been watching my dashboard much recently, but I’ll try and tell you what I’ve gathered.
I searched uvuu and found this post by user wolfatsuya, which explains what seems to have triggered the current drama.
tumblr user uvuu made a burn blog with the url 435r32r21111 (now deactivated) where he called people slurs of all kind, told people to get abused and raped etc. he originally was anonymous but accidentally revealed himself by answering an ask privately which appears as the main blog, not the side blog (proof here)
So then I assume a whole bunch of drama ensued with that. uvuu responded with a mix of apologies and wishing death upon people. This continued for some time. uvuu changed his url and attempted suicide, posting a photo of what seemed to be his blood being washed down a drain. He now claims he has been hospitalized for this suicide attempt (he posted a picture from the hospital) and is continuing to battle with the hate he’s receiving.
Some people are defending him, giving him the benefit of the doubt and believing his suicide attempt as well as calling out others for mocking his mental issues. Others don’t believe him and call him a manipulator.
As far as I’m aware, that’s pretty much the gist of it.
Realtalk time about tumblr drama and my opinion may be ~unpopular~
everyone who is harassing rodots is literal human garbage like holy hell I can’t believe i’m having to say this on TUMBLR of all places but
- SUICIDE AND SELF-INJURY ARE NEVER EVER EVER UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES JOKING MATTERS
- EVEN IF YOU THINK THE PERSON IS “FAKING” IT OR ONLY MAKING EMPTY THREATS
- DO NOT HARASS/MAKE FUN OF PEOPLE WHILE THEY’RE HAVING AN ANXIETY ATTACK
- EVEN IF YOU THINK THE PERSON IS “FAKING” IT OR ONLY MAKING EMPTY THREATS
- DO NOT EVER UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES TELL A SUICIDAL PERSON TO “FUCKING DO IT”
- ESPECIALLY IF YOU THINK THE PERSON IS “FAKING” IT OR ONLY MAKING EMPTY THREATS
IT IS MUCH MUCH MUCHHHHHHH FUCKING BETTER TO GIVE THE BENEFIT OF THE DOUBT AND BE TRICKED THAN END UP SAYING AWFUL THINGS TO AND ABOUT A SUICIDAL PERSON WHO ACTUALLY OFFED THEMSELVES. THAT IS SOMETHING YOU WOULD HAVE TO LIVE WITH FOR THE REST OF YOUR FUCKING LIFE. NO MORE INTERNET BULLSHITTING GAMES. YOU ARE DEALING WITH REAL HUMAN LIVES IN REAL FUCKING LIFE. PLEASE FOR THE LOVE OF GOD THINK BEFORE YOU FUCKING TYPE.
and for those of you who say, “oh well he was being a lil shit to everyone a couple days ago”, I read, for myself, where he apologized for his behavior on SEVERAL different occasions and simply asked that everyone leave him alone. ya’ll don’t have to forgive him for his shit, that’s not what i’m saying at all. but what you guys are doing to him, is no better than what he did to ya’ll a few days ago. NO ONE DESERVES TO BE TOLD THAT THEY NEED TO KILL THEMSELVES, NO MATTER WHAT THEY DID, AND FUCKING ESPECIALLY IF THEY HAVE A HISTORY OF MENTAL ILLNESS
THIS KID IS 14 YEARS OLD. I AM LITERALLY DISGUSTED WITH THIS SITE RIGHT NOW.
//sweats uh m … thank you for standing up for me and being nice in general but like„
what i did was shitty and disgusting and wrong and i really hope i can undo what i did and apologize for everyone personally because i really do regret it and i just hope i can undo it all because if anyone said that to me i’d be really terrified and disgusted because what i said was ew
i 1000% understand if people are still mad at me after my apologizes because i’d be too
i really want to just be a better person i really do i promise i want to
my only request is that people stop harassing me through messages/reblogs that’s literally all i’m asking
hate me and be mad at me because i understand that 100% i just want to be left alone until i can fully control my actions
Anyway back on the slightly more serious topic
what the fuck is up with all the tumblr drama recently
i am absolutely NOT getting into this uvuu drama but can people please not make fun of the time he apologised while makig a lot of typos because he was havig a panic attack??? jokes like those can actually be really hurtful to people who are prone to panic attacks and yeah sorry but i thought i should say something